Sometimes..

Sometimes, I behaved like a kid
Sometimes, I act like an ‘auntie’
Sometimes, I cry myself to sleep
Sometimes, I laugh myself silly
Sometimes, I want a hug
Sometimes, I get a smile
Sometimes, I think I am the prettiest of them all
Sometimes, I feel like the ugliest of them all
Sometimes, I face up to those who confront me
Sometimes, I runaway from emotionally charged up situation
Sometimes, I wish time can turn back
Sometimes, I pray time can stop
Sometimes, I wonder what future holds
Sometimes, I wish to be someone I am not…


but Most of the time I am contented with what and all I have now…


When I behaved like a kid; my friends loved me as I am
When I act like an ‘auntie’; people just wonder why
When I cry myself to sleep; I’ll regret the next day that I cried
When I laugh myself silly; people laugh with me
When I want a hug; I would get one
When I get a smile; I would give one too
When I think I am the prettiest of them all; I’d be happy for the day
When I feel like the ugliest of them all; He will pop by and call me ‘Lady’
When I face up with those with confront me; I take up the responsibility for my mistake
When I runaway from emotionally charged up situation; people understand & gave me grace
When I wish time can turn back; it never did
When I pray time will stop; God decides not to spoil me and let time continue
When I wonder what the future holds; imagination run wild and give me a dream to run to
When I wish to be someone I am not; I am glad that I am still Sylvie


so Most of the time I am contented with what and all I have now..

Kalimat bijak hari ini :

Allah punya rencana lain, and rencanaNya is the BEST among rencana2 lain, dan pasti lebih sempurna. And so, dicoba nge-flow aja sebisanya. But again, fokus and fokus, ben gak ambyar ! Dikit demi dikit sinau iklas.

Dari sana kita belajar menghadapi kenyataan bahwa jebul kita ini TIDAK BERHAK atas PEMILIKAN apa-apa. Tidak juga tentang tubuh kita ini, all belong to Him, and so dengan tetap berusaha yang terbaik yang bisa kita lakukan, fokus, and latihan berserah diri and sabar, Insya Allah tangan Allah sendirilah yang akan menuntun kita ke jalan yang dikehendakiNYA. Persahabatan dengan Gusti Allah iku kenikmatannya LUAR BIASA.



Well, ok.. sekarang aku ta "menata hati"

Grieving..

"First off let me just say how sorry I am for your loss. There is no greater pain then loseing someone you love...

There is no normal way to feel after an event such as that, but some people have tried to put it into stages so it can be understood greater.

There is a thing called the 5 stages of grief, and while it is by no means a reliable guide to "how" grief works, it can shead some light on some things.
The 5 stages are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance


What you are going through and the feelings you are having seem like you are going through the Depression stage of your grief.

Sometimes it takes a while for the full force of what is happening around us to break through into us. It can take days, weeks, even in some cases years, to fully come to blows and terms with the way things have changed.

A newer concept of grief is that of TEAR

T = To accept the reality of the loss
E = Experience the pain of the loss
A = Adjust to the new environment without the lost object
R = Reinvest in the new reality


As you can see there is no right or wrong way of feeling in a time like this, but I hope that this infomation takes a bit of the weight of your shoulders.
If you ever feel like your emotions are getting to strong for you to cope then please come and talk to me or friends and family. They are here to help you, and give you a place to vent if need be.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss, and can totally understand why you would be feeling the way you do."

Value

To realize the value of ONE YEAR,
ask a student who failed a grade.

To realize the value of ONE MONTH,
ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of ONE WEEK,
ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of ONE DAY,
ask the person who was born on February 29th

To realize the value of ONE HOUR,
ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of ONE MINUTE,
ask a person who missed the train.

To realize the value of ONE SECOND,
ask a person who just avoided an accident.

To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND,
ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.


Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. And remember that time waits for no one.


Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why it's called the present


Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their heart to us.

Original author: anonymous

Writing on the sands.

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.


The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.


They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who
had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him,
"After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it"

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND
AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them,
but then an entire life to forget them..

Quote of the day :

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.

Faithful man?

Is he a faithful man?
dunno..
I hope so..

Hanya 3 hari dalam hidup..

Dalam hidup ini hanya ada 3 hari.

Yang pertama:

Hari kemarin (PasT)

Anda tak bisa mengubah apa pun yang telah terjadi.
Anda tak bisa menarik perkataan yang telah terucapkan.
Anda tak mungkin lagi menghapus kesalahan
dan mengulangi kegembiraan yang anda rasakan kemarin.
Biarkan hari kemarin lewat; lepaskan saja...


Yang kedua:

Hari esok (FuTuRe)

Hingga mentari esok hari terbit
Anda tak tahu, apa yang akan terjadi esok hari
Anda tak tahu, bisa melakukan apa esok hari.
Anda tak tahu, sedih atau ceria esok hari.
Esok hari belum tiba, biarkan saja...


Yang tersisa kini hanyalah :

Hari ini (PreSenT)

Pintu masa lalu telah tertutup;
Pintu masa depan pun belum tiba.
Pusatkan saja diri anda untuk hari ini.

Anda dapat mengerjakan lebih banyak hal hari ini
bila anda mampu memaafkan hari kemarin dan
melepaskan ketakutan akan esok hari.

Hiduplah hari ini...
Karena, masa lalu dan masa depan
hanyalah permainan pikiran yang rumit.

Hiduplah apa adanya.
Karena yang ada hanyalah hari ini...
hari ini yang abadi.

Perlakukan setiap orang dengan kebaikan hati
dan rasa hormat, meski mereka berlaku buruk
pada anda.

Cintailah seseorang sepenuh hati hari ini,
karena mungkin besok cerita sudah berganti.

Ingatlah bahwa anda menunjukkan penghargaan
pada orang lain bukan karena siapa mereka,
tetapi karena siapakah diri sendiri

Jadi, jangan biarkan masa lalu mengekangmu
atau masa depan membuatmu bingung,
lakukan yang terbaik HARI INI dan lakukan SEKARANG juga!!!!!!


The day will come when you will review your life
and be thankful for every minute of it.
Every hurt, every sorrow, every joy,
every celebration, every moment of your life
will be a treasure.

This is why today is called a PRESENT

Beda Tipe Orang Barat & Orang Asia

Aku dapat ini dari milis. Pas baca langsung nyengir lebar. hehehe.. Bagus juga buat refleksi kita, orang Indonesia... dan Indonesia banget....


Blue --> Westerner
Red --> Asian


OPINION

B : Langsung to the point
R : Blunder muter-muter dulu, apalagi kalau opininya beda paham


WAY OF LIFE

B : individualis, mikirin kehidupannya sendiri
R : demen kumpul-kumpul sama saudara, ngurusin problem family


PUNCTUALITY

B : on time
R : in time


CONTACTS

B : contact to related person only
R : semua teman, semua saudara, relasi luas, bisnis lancar


ANGER

B : marah ya marah
R : marah tapi ramah


QUEUE WHEN WAITING

B : biasa antri teratur
R : rebutan dong, siapa cepat dia dapat lah..


SUNDAYS ON THE ROAD

B : menikmati weekend with his on way
R : doyan ketempat-tempat keramaian, mall, dll


PARTY

B : bebas-bebas aja berkelompok dengan grupnya sendiri
R : semua fokus ke satu acara party yang di-arrange EO


IN THE RESTAURANT

B : ngobrol pelan-pelan di resto
R : ribut, ngobrol keras-keras & ketawa-ketiwi, ga peduli meja sebelah


TRAVELLING

B : demen sightseeing, yang penting menikmati pemandangannya
R : yang penting foto-foto untuk memory, pemandangan cuma jadi background


HANDLING OF PROBLEMS

B : tabrak aja, yang penting solve the problem
R : sebisa mungkin menghindari masalah, atau malah kalau bisa jangan sampai ninggalin jejak


THREE MEALS A DAY

B : makan kenyang 1x sehari
R : 3 x makan ya kudu 3 x kenyang


TRANSPORTATION

B : dulu pakai mobil, sekarang udah care sama environment & health yang ga polusi
R : dulu sengsara pakai sepeda, sekarang gengsi dong kalau ga pakai mobil


ELDERLY IN DAY TO DAY LIFE

B : udah tua sendiri, paling ditemani snoopy
R : masa tua ga bakal kesepian, asal bantu ngemong cucu ya..


MOODS AND WEATHER

B : logikanya, hujan ya bikin repot
R : banyak hujan, banyak hoki


THE BOSS

B : Boss juga member of team
R : Boss adalah DEWA yang ditakuti


WHAT'S TRENDY

B : makanan Asia yang healthy
R : makanan barat yang bergengsi


THE CHILD

B :it's OK punya anak, nanti dia juga harus berjuang hidup like us
R : kerja jatuh bangun segala-galanya demi anak, sang penerus generasi

Persian proverb

Go as far as you can see
and when you get there, you'll see further

Woman

To be sincere I have a girlfriend who is in her 60's I just was shocked to know she was so old.
Guess Who?

It's my Mom

Why are you crying, a young boy asked his Mom?
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.
"I don't understand," he said.


His Mom just hugged him and said,
"And you never will, but that's O.K.".......


Later the little boy asked his father,
"Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?".
"All women cry for no reason," was all his Dad could say.



The little boy grew up and became a man,
still wondering why women cry.


Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked
"God, why do women cry so easily?"


GOD answered.... ..


"When I made woman,
I decided she had to be special.
I made her shoulders
strong enough to carry
the weight of the world, yet,
made her arms gentle enough to give comfort..

I gave her the inner strength
to endure childbirth
and the rejection
that many times will come
even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness
that allows her
to keep going and take care
of her family and friends,
even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining….

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all
circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly.....

She has the very special power to make a child's boo-boo feel better and
to quell a teenager's anxieties and fears....

I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults
and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart....

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but
sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him

unfalteringly. ...

For all of this hard work,
I also gave her a tear to shed.
It is hers to use
whenever needed and !

it is her only weakness....

When you see her cry,
tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though
she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good.


She is special!

Please send this to women you know, and those with mothers, sisters, and special women in their lives.

But, also send this to men so they will understand about what a wonderful thing a woman is.



Love Your Mother Always,
And Keep Her Smiling

Español Quote

Nació la palabra en la sangre, creció en el cuerpo oscuro, palpitando, y voló con los labios y la boca
(Pablo Neruda, "La palabra")


Hayyo.. ada yang tau artinya ga? :p

Quote of The Day!

Reach for the moon.

If you fall short, you'll still land

amongst the stars..

Friend

Let's see if you send it back. We all know or knew someone like this!!

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school.

His name was Kyle.

It looked like he was carrying all of his books.

I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on Friday?

He must really be a nerd."

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.

They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.

His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him.

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.

As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are ! jerks. "

They really should get lives.

" He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!"

There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.

He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.

He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to ! play a little football with my friends

He said yes.

We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.

I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!

" He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle! and I became best friends..

When we were seniors we began to think about college.

Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem.

He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.

Kyle was valedictorian of our class.

I teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He had to prepare a speech for graduation.

I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak

Graduation day, I saw Kyle.

He looked great.

He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.

Boy, sometimes I was jealous!
Today was one of those days.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!"

He looked ! at me w ith one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.

" Thanks," he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began

"Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends...

I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.

I am going to tell you a story."

I just looked at my friend! with d i sbelief as he told the story of the first day we met.

He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

"Thankfully, I was saved.

My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable. "

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.

Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions.

With one small gesture you can change a person's life.

For better or for worse.

God puts us all in each others lives to imp! act one another in some way.

Look for God in others.


"Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly."

There is no beginning or end.. Yesterday is history.

Tomorrow is a mystery.

Today is a gift.

Untuk semua teman2ku yang punya anak

Dari posting Bullbo-nya Mbak Lioni : Untuk semua teman2ku yang punya anak : Kecerdasan Emosional alias EQ!

Tahukah anda, apa yang paling dibanggakan orang tua dari anak-anaknya? Boleh jadi adalah kecerdasan scholastic, seperti matematika, bahasa, menggambar (visual), musik (musical), dan olahraga (kinestetik).

Tetapi, pernahkah kita membanggakan jika anak kita memiliki kecerdasan moral, kecerdasan intrapersonal, atau kecerdasan interpersonal?

Rasanya jarang, sebab ketiga kecerdasan yang terakhir hampir pasti uncountable, tidak bisa dihitung, dan sayang sekalin tidak ada pontennya (nilainya) di sekolah, karena di sekolah hanya memberikan penilaian kuantitatif.

Adasebuah cerita tentang seorang anak, sebut saja namanya Fani (6,5 tahun), kelas I SD. Ia memiliki banyak sekali teman. Dan ia pun tidak bermasalah harus berganti teman duduk di sekolahnya. Ia juga bergaul dengan siapa saja dilingkungan rumahnya. Adasatu hal yang menarik saat ia bercerita tentang teman- temannya.

"Bu, Ifa pinter sekali lho, Bu...! Pinter Matematika, Bahasa Indonesia, Menggambar... pokoknya pinter sekali....!" katanya santai. Vivi juga pintar sekali menggambar, gambarnya bagus ...sekali! Kalau si Yahya hafalannya banyaaak... sekali!"

Ya memang fani senang sekali membanggakan teman-temannya. Ketika mendengar celoteh anaknya ibunya tersenyum dan bertanya, " Kalau mbak Fani pinter apa?" Ia menjawab dengan cengiran khasnya,"

Hehehe...kalau aku, sih, biasa-biasa saja".

Jawaban itu mungkin akan sangat biasa bagi anda, tetapi ibunya tertegun, karena pada dasarnya Fani memang demikian. Ia biasa-biasa saja untuk ukuran prestasi scholastic.

Tapi coba kita dengarkan apa cerita gurunya, bahwa Fani sering diminta bantuannya untuk membimbing temannya yang sangat lamban mengerjakan tugas sekolah, mendamaikan temannya yang bertengkar.

Bahkan ketika dua orang adiknya, Farah (4,5 tahun) dan Fadila (2,5 tahun) bertengkar. Fani langsung turun tangan. "Sudah..! sudah, Dek! sama saudara tidak boleh bertengkar, Hayo tadi siapa yang mulai?"
Adiknya saling tunjuk."Hayo, jujur ... Jujur itu disayang Allah..! Sekarang salaman ya... saling memaafkan".

Pun ketika suatu hari ia melihat baju-baju bagus di toko, dengarlah komentarnya!

"Wah bajunya bagus-bagus ya Bu? Aku sebenarnya pengin, tapi bajuku di rumah masih bagus-bagus, nanti saja kalau sudah jelek dan Ibu sudah punya rezeki, aku minta dibelikan ..."

Ibunya pun tak kuasa menahan air matanya, subhanallah anak sekecil itu sudah bisa menunda keinginan, sebagai salah satu ciri kecerdasan emosional.

Saya sebenarnya ingin berbagi cerita tentang ini kepada anda, karena betapa banyak dari kita yang mengabaikan kecerdasan-kecerdasan emosional seperti itu. Padahal kita tahu dalam setiap tes penerimaan pegawai, yang lebih banyak diterima adalah orang yang mempunyai kecerdasan emosional walaupun dari sisi kecerdasan scholastic adalah BIASA-BIASA SAJA.

Kadang kita merasa rendah diri manakah anak kita tidak mencapai ranking sepuluh besar disekolah. Tetapi herannya, kita tidak rendah diri manakala anak-anak kita tumbuh menjadi pribadi yang egois, mau menang sendiri, sombong, suka menipu atau tidak biasa bergaul.

Maka ketika Fani mengatakan "AKU BIASA-BIASA SAJA", maka saat itu ibunya menjawab "Alhamdulillah, mbak Fani suka menolong teman-teman, tidak sombong, mau bergaul dengan siapa saja. Itu adalah kelebihan mbak Fani, diteruskan dan disyukuri ya..?" Ya... ibunya ingin mensupport dan memberikan reward yang positif bagi Fani. Karena kita tahu anak-anak kita adalah amanah dan suatu saat amanah itu akan diambil dan ditanyakan bagaimana kita menjaga amanah. Sebagaimana doa kita setiap hari agar anak-anak menjadi penyejuk mata dan hati.

Sudahkah kita mencoba untuk menggali potensi-potensi kecerdasan emosional anak-anak kita? Kalu belum mulailah dari diri kita, saat ini juga.

As I jumped off the building's 11th floor..

As I jumped off the building's 11th floor..


10th floor

9th floor

7th floor

6th floor

4th floor

3rd floor

2nd floor

Now the ground zero

EVERYBODY HAS THEIR OWN SET OF PROBLEMS BUT QUITING IS NOT
THE END RESULT TO ACHIEVE.
LOOK AT OTHER'S PROBLEM TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF TO LIVE !!

7 hal yang tidak bisa kita ubah dalam hidup

Dalam kehidupan ini kita selalu ingin menjadi yang terbaik sehingga kita lupa batasan apa saja yang dapat kita tembus atau dengan kata lain sesuatu yang bagai mana sih yang dapat kita rubah dan apa saja yang tidak dapat kita rubah....

1. Jenis kelamin. Memang ada operasi untuk mengubah kelamin. Tapi tidak bisa mengubah roh(spirit) orang yang bersangkutan. Terimalah dirimu, apakan engkau wanita ataupun pria. Act like woman / man!!

2. Orang tua. Tidak ada yang bisa memilih dilahirkan oleh orang tua yang mana. So, you must respect your parents!! Apakah orang tuamu seorang pemabuk, penjudi, pelacur sekalipun, you must respect them!! Kalau tidak, itu akan terjadi dalam kehidupanmu nanti. Your kids won't respect you, is it terrible?

3. Hari kelahiran. Sudah ditetapkan oleh Tuhan, sebelum dunia dijadikan. Amazing ha? But it's true. Jangan menyesali, mengapa engkau harus lahir ke dunia tapi disia-siakan oleh orang yang kau kasihi. Tuhan punya tujuan untukmu.

4. Bentuk Fisik. Kalau engkau keriting, yah keriting aja. Kalau hidungmu pesek, terima itu. Saya banyak melihat orang yang mengubah bentuk wajahnya, apakah itu memancungkan hidung, alis matanya dicukur habis, dll, jadi kelihatan aneh dan tidak natural.

5. Masa lalu. Ini juga sudah ditetapkan oleh Tuhan. Jangan melihat ke belakang karena itu hanya membuat engkau "frozen" - can not do anything! Look to the future and see how good it is.

6. Kedudukan dalam keluarga. Apakah engkau anak bungsu, sulung, atau tengah, you can not change it. Nikmati sajalah.

7. Suku bangsa / ras. Menyesal jadi orang Indonesia yang terus menerus dilanda kesulitan? Atau menyesal jadi orang Batak yang kalau menikah perlu upacara adat yang walahhhh mahal dan lama? hmmm.....


Nah, sekarang ubah cara berpikirmu.
Tuhan sudah menetapkan engkau di bangsa ini untuk satu tujuan. So, do the best in your job, loyal, jangan korupsi, itu sudah menolong untuk memperbaiki bangsa kita ini.

Itulah 7 hal yang tidak bisa kita ubah. Kalaupun ada yang kita bisa ubah, misalnya: bentuk fisik, itu akan membawa kita! ke dalam situasi yang tidak pernah puas. Selalu ingin ubah penampilan terus. Capek kan?


Terimalah dirimu apa adanya, seperti Tuhan menerimamu.
Memang dunia melihat rupa, tapi Tuhan melihat hati.