Overtime

I get an overtime this weekend, working in the lab supervising my students. Actually they help me to do my & my friend’s project and they can use it for their undergraduate thesis. It seems like I & my friend have to get an overtime again every weekend from now on until June, since the students only have spare time to do this research during weekend.

This weekend is my part, my friend is staying in her house with her beautiful new born baby, Zahra. I think next weekend is her duty to help the students in the lab :D Then I will have time to play with my son..

Kalimat bijak hari ini :

Allah punya rencana lain, and rencanaNya is the BEST among rencana2 lain, dan pasti lebih sempurna. And so, dicoba nge-flow aja sebisanya. But again, fokus and fokus, ben gak ambyar ! Dikit demi dikit sinau iklas.

Dari sana kita belajar menghadapi kenyataan bahwa jebul kita ini TIDAK BERHAK atas PEMILIKAN apa-apa. Tidak juga tentang tubuh kita ini, all belong to Him, and so dengan tetap berusaha yang terbaik yang bisa kita lakukan, fokus, and latihan berserah diri and sabar, Insya Allah tangan Allah sendirilah yang akan menuntun kita ke jalan yang dikehendakiNYA. Persahabatan dengan Gusti Allah iku kenikmatannya LUAR BIASA.



Well, ok.. sekarang aku ta "menata hati"

Grieving..

"First off let me just say how sorry I am for your loss. There is no greater pain then loseing someone you love...

There is no normal way to feel after an event such as that, but some people have tried to put it into stages so it can be understood greater.

There is a thing called the 5 stages of grief, and while it is by no means a reliable guide to "how" grief works, it can shead some light on some things.
The 5 stages are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance


What you are going through and the feelings you are having seem like you are going through the Depression stage of your grief.

Sometimes it takes a while for the full force of what is happening around us to break through into us. It can take days, weeks, even in some cases years, to fully come to blows and terms with the way things have changed.

A newer concept of grief is that of TEAR

T = To accept the reality of the loss
E = Experience the pain of the loss
A = Adjust to the new environment without the lost object
R = Reinvest in the new reality


As you can see there is no right or wrong way of feeling in a time like this, but I hope that this infomation takes a bit of the weight of your shoulders.
If you ever feel like your emotions are getting to strong for you to cope then please come and talk to me or friends and family. They are here to help you, and give you a place to vent if need be.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss, and can totally understand why you would be feeling the way you do."

Value

To realize the value of ONE YEAR,
ask a student who failed a grade.

To realize the value of ONE MONTH,
ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of ONE WEEK,
ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of ONE DAY,
ask the person who was born on February 29th

To realize the value of ONE HOUR,
ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of ONE MINUTE,
ask a person who missed the train.

To realize the value of ONE SECOND,
ask a person who just avoided an accident.

To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND,
ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.


Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. And remember that time waits for no one.


Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why it's called the present


Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their heart to us.

Original author: anonymous

Indonesia is a happy country!

Check this out :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happy_Planet_Index

and

http://worlddatabaseofhappiness.eur.nl/hap_nat/nat_fp.php


So..

Welcome to Smiling Country
Are You Unhappy? Come to Indonesia!

Writing on the sands.

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.


The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.


They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who
had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him,
"After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it"

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND
AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them,
but then an entire life to forget them..

Research

Bu Anik & aku dua mingguan ini bikin proposal penelitian baru. Dananya lumayan banyak so, semoga saja diterima. Risetnya tentang natural product, arahnya ke sediaan pasta gigi. Bahan yang dipakai macem-macem tanaman obat. Pas milih tanaman obat apa aja yang bakalan dipakai, kami sepakat ga pakai zodia. Meskipun dia termasuk tanaman obat, tapi baunya minta ampun ga enaknya. Kayanya baunya itu yang bikin nyamuk ga suka. Bu Anik nyeletuk, wah kalau pakai zodia sama aja dengan sekali merengkuh dayung, 2-3 pulau terlampaui. Dengan pakai pasta gigi yang ada kandungan zodia-nya, kita bisa menghambat pertumbuhan bakteri penyebab plak gigi sekaligus pengusir nyamuk pas kita tidur dengan mulut terbuka...
Hwahahahaha..

Dian & Renata

Sudah beberapa hari belakangan ini aku kerap memergoki ada selembar kertas dilipat rapi yang ditaruh di meja teras rumah. Pas aku buka, ada tulisan tangan anak kecil & bunyinya salah satunya begini : "Reza, aku punya hadiah buat kamu. Aku tunggu kamu di lapangan basket nanti sore ya. Dari : Rahasia"

:p

Dan kalau aku perhatiin, ada 2 orang anak perempuan kecil (sekitar kelas 2 SD) yang sering lewat depan rumah ngecengin Reza. Namanya Dian & Renata. Kadang mereka nekat masuk & naruh sesuatu (entah surat, entah kartu mainan) di meja teras, kadang mereka juga berani ketok pintu rumah & biasanya yang bukain Mami. & lucunya Mami dengan nada tegas tanya (padahal ini ke anak kecil, pakai nada tegas segala hehehe.. kalau aku jadi anak kecilnya aku bisa kabur & kapok main lagi) : "Cari siapa?" & mereka tanya "Reza ada?" & Mami jawab : "Reza main " atau, "Reza belum pulang (sekolah)"

Kata Mami, ini sudah berlangsung sejak puasa tahun kemarin. Reaksi Reza sendiri pas ta kasih tahu ada surat buat dia atau Dian & Renata nyari dia, suratnya biasanya dia baca dulu trus dia sobek-sobek sampai kecil.
Kemarin siang, Renata nyari dia ke rumah pas Reza ada di rumah. Yang bukain pintu Mami lagi, tapi Reza tahu & dia lewat pintu samping keluar rumah & sambil berkacak pinggang nyemprot Renata begini : "Mau apa kamu? Pulang sana! Awas kalau kamu kesini lagi!" #@$%&*!!

Renatanya langsung kabur. Tapi ga lama dia balik lagi, kali ini naik sepedanya & ngecengin Reza lagi. Reza buru-buru lari ke depan & ngejar Renata sampai jauh. Mami sampai teriak2 nyuruh dia balik. Reza ngomel2.. "tadi itu hampir aja si Renata ta lempar batu, tapi keburu eyang nyuruh aku pulang!!!!"

Hwahahahaha...

Aku bisa ngerti kenapa Reza selalu ngamuk-ngamuk kalau dua cewek itu ngecengin dia. Maklum, 2-2nya terbilang biasa-biasa aja, ga terlalu cantik. Ga seperti selera Reza (& mamanya) kaya biasanya :D lagian, risih kali dia kalau dikejar terus, belum lagi dia digodain abis sama temen-temen cowoknya gara-gara dua orang cewek itu.
Aku bilang ke Reza, sebaiknya dia bilang aja ke Dian & Renata kalau dia udah punya cewek di sekolah, namanya Sofie. Reza bilang sih udah bolak-balik, cuman emang Renata & Diannya yang ndableg.

Komentar Mami, cewek sekarang agresif-agresif.. Hmm.. hiiiiiiii.. Kalau betul, ngeri juga. Aduh, ini anakku masih kelas 4 SD lho. Gimana nanti kalau SMA ya? Gawat!!!!